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One Day at a Time

If you talk to anyone who has battled addiction for very long sooner than later you will likely hear the phrase, “one day at a time.”

One day at a time. . . I can’t imagine a better way to live in this time of uncertainty.  

The thing that is bothering me the most these days is fear of the unknown.  I have been talking to people daily who seem to be struggling with the same thing.  The one question that keeps coming up is, “How long do you think this is going to last?”  That's the trillion dollar question these days right?  I have yet to see anyone have a firm answer or even an educated guess as to how long this crises will last.  We all feel it.  The people in my house range from 5 to 44 years old, and daily someone says something to the effect of “Is this going to last forever? . . . I have to get out of this house. . . I just want to go somewhere and do something. . .  I miss my friends,”  and other things of that nature.  

We all feel it in one way or another— the tension, the confinement, the cutoff from face to face meetings.  So how long will this last?  Like everyone else, I have no clue.  The questions I have been trying to ask myself are: how do I live in the present, how do I take advantage of this time I can work from home, and how do I connect with my family.  It’s easy to just wish this time away, but I think our country and world, myself included, would do well to use the same phrase that has aided millions of people in getting sober and staying sober long term—one day at a time.

It’s in the Lord's prayer: “Give us today our daily bread.”  Many of us are literally asking each day for our daily bread.  

One day at a time

Paul Young, the author of the The Shack, talks about living in the grace of today, another way of saying “one day at a time.”

"I believe we get grace for one day. We have no clue if we are going to be here tomorrow. A truck could come across the road and take me out. This is where I live – today. This is where God is, and this is where I’m present. I can spend grace today, or I could spend it on something that doesn’t even exist yet – on future issues, where we create imaginations about everything that could go wrong in our lives. We are dragging things that don’t exist into the present, and we’re spending time on things that we bring from an unforeseen future into the present. In the presence of God, there’s a fullness of joy.”

“Grace for one day,” wow, that really speaks to me today.  “A truck could come across the road and take me out,” or a global pandemic could start and change life as we know it.  

So how do we live in the grace of today?  

How do we live one day at a time?

For me living one day at a time is not just a catchy phrase, it is a way of life.  I think now is a great time to adopt that way of living.  Here are 4 ways you can practice living one day at a time.

1- Feel your feelings.  

Stuffing my feelings causes them to grow in my mind, become larger than they really are, and then come out as anger or frustration towards someone I love.  It’s a great practice to learn to feel your feelings and write them out.  Take a minute in your day to journal.  Make that journal a place you can be totally honest with yourself about how you’re feeling.  You might be surprised by the weight that is lifted off by just writing something out.